This is the opposite of helpful!

My wonderful hubby was trying to be helpful yesterday. He supports me in whatever I do but sometimes support turns into slave-driving.

As soon as he woke up, he looked over my shoulder at the computer. “How much have you written today?”

I self-consciously closed Tweetdeck, “I wrote my blog.”

He gave me that look. You know, the one that parents give children when asking if their homework is done. Hubby shouldn’t give me that look. I reminded myself that he was just trying to be supportive and opened my WIP.

A few hours later, it happened again. I was doing online research for a scene, but the look he gave me suggests he didn’t believe that.

It happened several more times throughout the day and really started to piss me off upset me. Finally, I put the WIP away so that I wouldn’t take out my frustrations on my hero.

As a writer, I do research. I talk to other writers for encouragement (this includes Twitter). I stare off into space as I watch the scene in my mind before writing it. This IS my job. I AM working.

I know that my hubby was just trying to be his supportive, helpful self, but when I feel stressed, the creative juices slow. No one can stress me out more than the love of my life! I love you but stop being so darned “helpful!”

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  1. Ooohh man. I’d be like “step off!” How frustrating! But on the opposite end, there’s other husbands who don’t even know their wives write…

    • He was a pain in the butt yesterday, but I love him. (I made him read this post so maybe it won’t happen again)

  2. Luckily the only person who presses me to write is myself, but sometimes I think that’s harder than having outside pressure. Of course, I don’t have someone’s eyes on me watching carefully to see if I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing, but in my head is the voice that says “Stop playing solitaire! Stop Tweeting! Write damn you, write!” Yeah…but at least you have his support and it really is kind of sweet, lol.

    • He really is sweet but sometimes ….


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